We’re taught “love hurts”; “you hurt the ones you love.” It seems we’re being prepared to accept a life with some abuse. Bucketlist Lifehack™: Love does not hurt. Anyone causing you damage is not love. Break free to piece together a good-love-only livin’.
Broken Truffle Lasagna is easy proof that even when things break, it’s all so, so good.
Lasagna is good’ol lov’n. Hands down a most comforting food. Made from pieces of beloved tastes, piled and warmed to create the good feelings associated with living. Truffles are nature’s delicious secret. Impossible to grow and only animals know.
Nature’s most expensive secret is that we don’t need to tolerate the bad.
This realization took time and trauma. Bucketlist confession: I had a sister I Loved. Truly. I did a lot for her. I would’ve done more. I always made her Lasagna, Stuffed Shells, Blue Cheese Gnocchi. They became her favorites. When she hurt me, I had to choose. Shatter reality or continue delusion.
The moment was out-of-body. I’d driven 13 hours for her. Packed and unpacked. Cleaned. Set up the apartment I’d found her. She slept. She wanted a specific coffee table. 3 am. I’d just finished building her furniture. Arranged it beautifully. “Let me buy her the coffee table.” I opened the laptop. Messages with my abuser. Planning. Plotting. Secrets. Unnecessary. My body twitched. First and last time that’s happened. I booked a flight. I remember tears. Going to the airport. At the terminal. In the airplane.
It was a shock. Though not her first cruelty.
Years prior I’d dropped life. Raced into an unknown disaster zone abroad to make sure she was okay. Brought her home. She never said thanks but maligned me to her family. I hadn’t accepted the lesson then.
Bucketlist Soulhack™: Lean into the lesson. Don’t be afraid. Broken Truffle Lasagna is easy proof that even when things break, it’s all so, so good. Truly. Death-Free™ and so easy.
Healing took time. I reflected on why I entered any toxic relationship contract. It was time to rewrite some and terminate others. Cut chords. Bucketlist Longevityhack™: Detach from people whose love hurts. They’ll have an excuse. Do you need more hurt? I didn’t. Whether lover, friend, child, sister, brother, father, or mother. Every relationship is optional. No one has an inherit right to you. Your choice. Your lesson. Love don’t hurt.
Bon appétit, Friends.
VIDEO: Broken Truffle Lasagna by Bucketlist
Bucketlist Lasagna Sauce
∞ 6 Tomatoes (chopped)
∞ 1 Portobello Mushroom (chopped)
∞ 1 Carrot (chopped)
∞ 5 cups Water
∞ 1 tsp Onion (dry or fresh)
∞ 1 tsp Garlic (dry or fresh)
∞ 1 tsp Rosemary (dry or fresh)
∞ 1 tsp Thyme (dry or fresh)
∞ 1 tsp Paprika
∞ 1 tsp Black Pepper
∞ 1 tsp Salt
You Need:
∞ 9 oz Lasagna Sheets (broken or full)
∞ 1 bunch Fresh Spinach (chopped) (OR 10oz Frozen Cut Spinach)
∞ 1 cup Basil (chopped)
∞ 2 tbsp Black Truffles (sliced)
∞ 4 cups Bucketlist Lasagna Sauce
∞ 2 cups Ricotta (cashew or rennet-free)
∞ 1 tsp Olive Oil